I know it's common advice to never mention the words "spousal hire" in the early interview process.
I was wondering when the right time is to mention a significant other - who will not be a spousal hire, but who will need to like the place where I go!
In my situation, we've been together for seven years, have not made it "official," but, you know, plan to stay together. I feel like it's easier to talk about a spouse, because significant other doesn't necessarily sound as permanent. But my SO will affect the decision I make…so, when's the appropriate time to bring that up? I haven't at all during the phone interviews, but I've got some campus visits coming up.
I just want the committee to know that's a factor - which I suppose is only important if I get an offer (as in, we might want to visit the potential city together if there was a formal offer), but I also feel like it's weird to not mention the SO at all before then. And I don't want to have to give my entire life story, but I also don't want to sound like we've been dating for a short time.
I might be over-thinking this a bit, but I'm kind of an awkward person, and I just want some tips on how to be non-awkward about this :)