I need some help. I'm going to summarize my current predicament while trying to not be too specific. I'll use aliases of jobs to make it distinguishable while I go through the details.
Ok, so I've been on the job market this year (2015-2016), and have gotten considerable interest (14 phone interviews, 4 campus interviews), but none have turned into any offers. Currently, I'm still on the job market, hoping one of these last things turns into something, at least temporarily. Here's where I stand: Job A (preferred) is a VAP (1-yr) with an August start date. I'm currently waiting for a decision. I recently returned from a campus interview for Job B (1-yr Asst Prof), and am currently waiting for a response from that. Last, I have an opportunity to adjunct at Job C in a city where my parents live (obviously for considerably less salary than the other two full-time gigs). I told Job C that I'd let them know at the end of June my decision (since they're holding the courses for me, but understand that I'm looking for full-time). Unfortunately, it's nearing the end of the month and I don't know a single thing about A or B. As for updates on processes, I'm up-to-date on all info at the moment.
The kicker about all of this is that it's not only me looking for a job. My wife, though not in academia, needs to pursue a transfer with her current job, and with each job in different cities, she can't tell the recruiters which city she needs to look into. We have to leave our current city by the end of July, with a destination, and a plan for that destination, as we have a toddler and another one on the way. Staying in our current situation/city is not really an option, because it will be too expensive for us as I will not have a paycheck after July.
I hope that makes sense. My question is, how do I approach all of this? How would you? Do I ask for an extension of my decision for Job C to wait for Jobs A & B decisions? Can I ask/request for a timeline for Jobs A & B, and should I explain my predicament? My wife and I are at our wits-end with this whole thing and the uncertainty is obliterating our positivity. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks.