Well, I can at least say that I included a "tablet" in my startup negotiation (framed as for research purposes, of course), and there was no problem with this. IF I were to actually buy one (which I haven't yet), I would use it for research (e.g., surveys in the community using a survey app on the iPad), not just for "personal productivity" (which sounds like a euphemism for destressing with a few rounds of Angry Birds). Also, I am not at an R1, so it seems likely that you could get MORE than I did. I also negotiated for $$ for paying participants, which was the biggest chunk of my startup. I asked about money for paying research assistants and that was a non-starter. Not sure about lifetime memberships to organizations… My chair was not keen on paying for even a few years, but again, I'm not at an R1. Finally, you should find out if the school offers the stats package you want already. I get SPSS for "free" (as in, no cost to me or my department) on any university licensed computer (which currently includes my office computer and two lab computers). I did include other software needs in my startup, though.